11 Things I’m Cancelling As A Millennial SAHM This Year

Alessandra | Posted on December 5, 2024 |

I’m not into “Cancel Culture” but here are 11 things I’m cancelling very willingly and unashamedly as a millennial stay at home mom in 2025!

Being a stay at home mom (or SAHM) in the millennial era comes with a unique set of challenges which is why there’s a few things I’m cancelling this year. Between the pressures of social media, ever-evolving trends, and societal expectations, I think we’ve all felt the need to keep up at some point. But guess what? I’m over it! I’m not going to burn myself out trying to keep up with it all this year because it’s honestly, insane. That’s right, 2025 is the year of cancelling what no longer serves us as moms. Let’s set some boundaries, reclaim some sanity, and have a whole lotta fun along the way! No shame, no judgement, just confidence.

While I’m NOT into cancel culture and I think it’s extremely harmful and even toxic, this blog is meant to touch on small aspects of motherhood. Aspects that are probably making you feel guilty or ashamed at some point along your motherhood journey. Even when you shouldn’t feel that way! There is SO much expected of us as moms that these things I’m cancelling are going to help with stress, guilt, and boundaries and ultimately it’s going to improve your life and even your kids’ lives! So let’s dive in, maybe laugh a little, and put these crazy stressors aside so we can enjoy being a mom again in 2025.

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Wait, What Is Cancel Culture?

If you’re unsure what “cancel culture” is, let me explain real quick. Cancel culture refers to the practice of boycotting or “cancelling” support from individuals, companies, or public figures after they have said or done something considered offensive, unethical, or harmful. This often takes place on social media platforms, where public outcry can lead to significant consequences, such as lost jobs, damaged reputations, or business failures.

At its core, cancel culture is a form of accountability, demanding that people face repercussions for their actions. While this can be positive when it sheds light on systemic issues or holds powerful entities responsible, cancel culture has also evolved into something more complex and, at times, destructive! It can become harmful because often times society doesn’t have the full story. People often see one video on social media and assume things. Misinformation has lead to the toxicity of cancel culture.

Things I’m Cancelling This Year As A Millennial SAHM

Now that you have an idea of what cancel culture is, let’s talk about what I think has gotten so crazy in the realm of motherhood to deem cancellation. Here are 11 things I’m canceling officially as a millennial stay at home mom in 2025 to lessen the stress in my life and actually enjoy being a mom. Keep reading for the top 3 most important things I’ll be focusing on instead!

1. Inviting Your Kid’s Entire Class to Birthday Parties

Coming in hot with this one and if it ruffles some feathers, I’m sorry. A little. I mean, it’s cute in theory but exhausting (and VERY expensive) in practice. I’m all for a fun celebration, but I’ve never been one to invite my kid’s entire class to parties because it’s ridiculous. It teaches our kids that they should be friends with everyone, and well, you shouldn’t be. I teach my kids to be nice to everyone, but you don’t have to be friends with everyone because not everyone will be your cup of tea. And that’s ok! As an adult you are not friends with everyone, so why should your child be? Here’s your invitation (pun intended) to scale back to the people who genuinely matter. Quality over quantity, right?!

2. Botox/Fillers

Coming in hot again am I right?! Honestly, no shade to anyone who loves their botox/fillers, but it’s just not for me for multiple reasons. I’m cancelling the notion that I need to look younger or “perfect” to be a good mom or feel confident. I have 2 daughters who deserve to know they are naturally beautiful and I’m setting the example! Also, I have a son who doesn’t need to think unattainable beauty is something he should be searching for. The same goes for my daughters too! It’s getting a little ridiculous out there if you ask me, with the big lips and cheeks. Ladies, you’re beautiful the way you are! Wrinkles are just laugh lines from raising tiny humans, and I’m embracing them.

3. Constantly Changing Trends/Fads

On a lighter note, social media makes me feel like trends are moving at the speed of light. I seriously can’t keep up! From home décor to fashion to even parenting styles, there’s always something new we’re “supposed” to adopt. And it’s making me dizzy. This year, I’m sticking to what works for me and leaving the rest to the Instagram influencers. Skinny jeans, ugg boots, shorts that cover my booty are all totally acceptable. If you like it, wear it! That’s my motto. Plus, it gets pricey trying to keep up with it all!

4. Playing the Victim of Motherhood

Hard pass! Motherhood is hard, we all know that, but constantly focusing on the negatives robs us of its joy! I’m so sick of seeing moms on the internet use their children for laughs and views. I’m sick of hearing moms dwell on all the hard stuff to the point where our generation is actually scaring the next generation of women to the point that they don’t want kids at all! Like that’s so sad. You write your own journey, so this year flip the script, mama. Being a mom is tough and it’s incredible. Let’s focus on the good stuff!

5. Mom Guilt

Mom guilt is so last year! It’s also 100% a choice. You have the choice to feel guilty or not, so why not change your mindset and start making the choice to not feel guilty about silly things? Making mistakes when you’re a mom is inevitable because you are a HUMAN. It’s how we learn and grow and becoming better. Cancelling the guilt lets us focus on being present for our kids and ourselves. It’s ok to want to be alone sometimes, it’s ok if you had a bad day, stop dwelling in the guilt and move forward.

6. Perfectly Packed School Lunches

I have never been this mom and I will never be this mom. Do you know why? Do you know what my kids want? A lunch that’s edible! They do not care if they have Instagram worthy veggies (they won’t eat them anyway.) They also don’t care if their sandwich is cut into the shape of a dinosaur. I mean, if this is something you do and it brings you joy, by all means keep it up. You rock! But I’m done feeling bad about skipping the Pinterest-worthy bento box and you should too. A sandwich and some fruit will do just fine! Also, goldfish, pringles, cheesesticks, cookies, etc. are all completely acceptable in a lunch box.

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7. Kids’ Extracurricular Overload

I have 3 kids and each of them doing 1 activity/sport at one time is more than enough running around. Signing up for a million activities doesn’t make you a better mom! In fact, it can leave everyone feeling stressed out and overtired. This year, choose a couple of favorites and ditching the chaos of an overbooked calendar. Your kids will thank you later! As a rule of thumb in our family, each kid can do 1 activity at a time, there is just not enough time in the day and week to do anymore than that. You’ll end up being burnt out by the time your kids are teenagers.

8. Judging Other Moms

I mean this should’ve ended years ago, but for some reason (probably social media) the judgement from one mom to another is truly out of this world. From formula vs. breastfeeding, co-sleeping, sleep training, screen time debates, parenting styles, the mom wars NEED TO END! Every single mother is just trying to doing her best everyday. And they should be able to do her best without being crucified for doing something different than another mom. I’m canceling any energy spent on judging or being judged this year. If someone wants to judge me for how I do something, that’s on them. It’s a them problem!

9. DIY Everything

I am not a crafty DIY kinda mom. Sometimes, store-bought is better in my opinion. I’m all about home cooked meals, but sometimes grabbing pre-made cupcakes for a school party is going to save my sanity. Or buying a few holiday decorations will help me actually decorate for something. If you love a good DIY project then that’s awesome, I love you for that! But I’m letting go of the pressure to DIY every single thing. Convenience is not a crime!

10. The “Hot Mess Mom” Persona

Say this with me: “I’m not a hot mess mom!” We’ve all seen it. You know, the mom who leans into chaos as a personality trait. While relatable at times and a little bit funny, it can perpetuate unhealthy expectations for moms to “do it all” while also falling apart. Like it’s cool to not shower for days, barely eat all day, and walk around looking like a zombie. Hard truth: It’s not because you matter too! This year why not opt for some balance instead. Remind yourself that you matter too and you don’t have to walk around gaslighting yourself about being a hot mess.

11. An All or Nothing Attitude

Honestly I’m so sick of hearing things like “grow your own garden because if you buy food at the grocery store you’re POISONING your children!” Or all the products in your home are toxic and causing you cancer so make your own cleaning products. Like it’s that easy? Or you either have to be completely sober or your probably a drunk. Can’t I have a single drink out for dinner with my husband once in a while because I enjoy it? Geesh, I’m getting myself worked up haha! It feels like that line from Mean Girls, “If you have sex you’ll get pregnant and die!” Everything does not need to be so extreme. Life and motherhood doesn’t have to be all or nothing. You can find balance in the things that are important for you!

Final Thoughts

WOO! That was like kind of a lot to take in. But I hope it ultimately gave you a laugh and hopefully made you feel a little bit better as you ride this crazy wave of motherhood. Remember, motherhood is a journey, not a competition or a trend! That’s why I encourage you this year to “cancel” what doesn’t align with YOUR OWN values. Cancel the things that add unnecessary stress to your life. I know I will be! Motherhood is suppose to be FUN and EXCITING. Not scary and overwhelming. Here’s to making room for what actually matters: connection, laughter, and a little more peace. Cheers, mama!

Tell me, what are you canceling this year? Let’s talk about it in the comments below!

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