Myths Of Motherhood We Need To Cancel (Yesterday)

Alessandra | Posted on June 16, 2025 |

Our world is full of myths, but the myths of motherhood you hear so often can become overwhelming. They can affect mother’s in ways you wouldn’t really think about. In this blog, I discuss the top 6 myths you might hear when it comes to being a mom and why we need to cancel them!

The myths of motherhood can make motherhood go from beautiful to overwhelming real fast! One minute you’re thinking you’ve got it all figured out and mom life is the best, only to be humbled, overwhelmed, and exhausted. If you’ve found yourself way too influenced by outdated advice and toxic expectations of motherhood, you’re not alone! There’s a lot of pressure to be everything, do everything, and never admit that it’s hard. But today, I want to help you break that cycle. Yes motherhood is beautiful AND hard, no matter what, but let’s not dwell on all the myths and unrealistic expectations of moms today. In this blog I’ms haring 6 mom myths we need to cancel today, so you can feel less guilt, more freedom, and actually enjoy motherhood for you.

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6 Myths of Motherhood You Can Forget

Here are the top 6 myths of motherhood you can just forget starting today. These are lines you have probably heard over and over again and most likely make you feel put down, overwhelmed, and just like an awful parent. But don’t worry, I truly believe it’s time to put these myths to rest because they are just that: MYTHS. Not true! Check them out now and make sure to tell me what you think in the comment section below.

1. Good moms never lose their patience

Myth #1: Good moms never lose their patience. Let’s just laugh this one right off and get one thing straight: patience is not infinite. You are human and you will lose your patience at some point. Even the most loving, gentle parenting, intentional moms have limits. Losing your temper doesn’t mean you’re failing or that you’re a bad mom. It simply means you’re human.

Why it needs to go: This myth pressures moms into suppressing real emotions and feeling guilty for being human. You’re allowed to feel overwhelmed. You’re allowed to say, “I need a damn minute!” That’s not bad parenting, that’s healthy self-awareness. So next time you lose your patience, take a deep breath, and move on.

2. You just need to be more organized

Myth #2: You need to be more organized. I mean, let’s be real, being organized is great, but whether you’re a Type A or Type B mom, we can’t all be perfectly organized. Motherhood doesn’t work that way. Mom burnout is not a calendar issue. You can have routines, planners, and color-coded charts and still feel like you’re drowning. That’s because burnout isn’t about your systems, it’s about your capacity. Are you doing too much? Are you getting enough help? All the organization in the world isn’t going to help.

Why it needs to go: This myth shifts the blame onto moms and makes them feel like they’re failing at something they can’t “schedule” their way out of. Yuck! What moms need is support, rest, and community, not another to-do list.

3. You chose this, so don’t complain

Myth #3: You chose this, so no complaining. This makes me blood boil and it hits hard, because it’s incredibly invalidating! Whether you chose to stay home, work full-time, or something in between, it doesn’t mean you’re not allowed to struggle. Everyone else can complain about their 9-5 jobs and their bosses, but the second moms open their mouths to vent, they are complaining and it’s suddenly not ok. Because we wanted to be moms? Nope. You’re allowed to vent. It doesn’t mean you don’t love your kids, it means again, that you’re human!

Why it needs to go: This myth silences moms and that’s something we’ve been trying to shut down for years. It creates shame around expressing needs, asking for help, or admitting it’s hard. Every choice comes with challenges, and all moms deserve compassion and understanding! So be the mom with the listening ear and offer a hug to another mom going through a challenging season of motherhood.

4. Real moms love every moment

Myth #4: Real moms love every single moment. Let’s just laugh at that one for a second. Because you’re telling me “real moms” should love feeling touched out, cleaning up crushed Goldfish multiple times a day, waking up 5 times a night, or dealing with a tantruming 2 year old in the middle of Target? I could go on and on, but you get it. Cleaning up poop, listening to whining, and making meals for a child who refuses to eat is NOT fun, nor is it weird that you get feel warm and fuzzies when this happens. It’s ok to not enjoy or love every moment of motherhood, because that would honestly just be weird if you did.

Why it needs to go: This myth sets up an impossible standard. Motherhood has magical moments, of course, but not every moment is lovable. Genuinely disliking the hard parts doesn’t make you a bad mom. It makes you real!

5. You should be able to do it all

Myth #5: You should be able to do it all and do it well, all alone. HA! Modern moms are expected to raise kids, keep a clean house, cook organic meals, maintain a thriving marriage, stay in shape, and somehow also relax with daily self care every single day and on top of it all we should be enjoying it. With a big smile on our faces. I mean, just reading the sentence makes me feel winded, so the fact that moms are supposed to live up to these unrealistic standards is exhausting. You shouldn’t have to do it all alone because we were never meant to mom alone.

Why it needs to go: This myth creates burnout faster than anything else. No one can do it all! Something always gives and that’s okay. Prioritizing your peace isn’t selfish, it’s smart. And at the end of the day it makes you a better mom and wife.

6. Self care is selfish

Myth #6: Self care is like so selfish! Let’s clear some things up real quick, self care is not spa days and shopping sprees and getting your nails done weekly (though those are great too!) It’s sometimes just taking a shower without interruptions or saying no without guilt. Sometimes it’s making sure you eat real meals or sit and read a book or engage in your favorite hobby. And whatever it is, it’s absolutely not selfish!

Why it needs to go: Moms need to be reminded that caring for yourself is what allows you to care for others well. Keyword is WELL. You’re a mom and you’ll always be there to take care of your family, but the way you feel has a direct impact on how well you can take care of your family. Your needs matter and burnout happens when you forget that. So remember to selflessly take care of you so you can show up as the mom you want to be!

You Deserve Better

You deserve better, mama, and that’s NOT a myth. Motherhood doesn’t need to feel like a never-ending pressure cooker of guilt, performance, and perfectionism. Because that doesn’t make motherhood fun! It makes it overwhelming and unenjoyable and we didn’t become moms to feel that way constantly. Canceling these myths of motherhood is the first step toward reclaiming your joy, your peace, and your sanity. Let’s stop chasing unrealistic standards together and start embracing realistic motherhood. You’re doing better than you think and you deserve to feel that too! Join my mama community below and start your journey towards becoming the mama you always wanted to be.

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