To The Burnt Out Stay At Home Mom, You’re Not Alone

Alessandra | Posted on March 21, 2024 |

In this blog you’ll learn what mom burnout is, the signs and causes of it, and how to overcome it. If you’re a burnt out stay at home mom, you’re in the right place! Keep reading to learn more.

No one has told you this, but you DON’T have to be a burnt out stay at home mom anymore! Being a stay at home mom is one of the most rewarding yet challenging roles a woman can take on. While you know it’s filled with love, joy, and precious moments, it can also lead to exhaustion, overwhelm, and serious burnout. It is not always rainbows and butterflies, mama. You won’t enjoy every single moment (it’s impossible, so don’t feel guilty about it!) But here’s the thing…you don’t have to feel constantly burnt out either. There are things you can do to feel BETTER; to DO better!

To all the burnt out stay at home moms out there, know that you’re not alone. Let’s explore some of the causes, signs, and most importantly, strategies to overcome burnout and rediscover the joy in motherhood.

*Note: This information is not meant to diagnose or offer medical advice. This is just my own personal stories and advice.

If you’re a burnt out stay at home mom you…

Might feel resentful towards your children or husband
Could feel extreme fatigue
Probably feel like you need a long vacation alone
Feel uninspired
Lack energy and motivation
Probably don’t not feel like yourself

What is Mom Burnout?

Mom burnout is a state of physical, emotional, and mental exhaustion experienced by mothers, particularly those who stay at home to care for their children full-time. It’s characterized by feelings of overwhelm, stress, and a sense of being constantly drained, both physically and emotionally. Moms experiencing burnout often feel like they’re running on empty, struggling to meet the demands of their daily responsibilities while neglecting their own well-being.

Mom burnout can manifest in various ways, including chronic fatigue, increased irritability, and a loss of interest or enjoyment in activities they once found fulfilling. It’s important to recognize the signs of burnout and take proactive steps to address it before it takes a toll on both the mother’s health and her ability to care for her family.

Causes of Becoming A Burnt Out Stay At Home Mom

Let’s dive into a few reasons why you might be feeling burnt out as a stay at home mom. Remember, if you’re feeling any of these things, you’re not alone! And while it might be normal, it doesn’t have to be the way you live.

Lack of Support System:

One significant cause of burnout for stay at home moms is the feeling of isolation and lack of support. Without a strong support system, moms can feel overwhelmed by the demands of childcare, household chores, and managing family dynamics all on their own.

Unrealistic Expectations:

Society often places unrealistic expectations on mothers, expecting them to balance everything perfectly while maintaining a flawless appearance. This pressure to “do it all” can lead to feelings of inadequacy and burnout as moms struggle to meet these impossible standards.

Neglecting Self Care:

Stay at home moms frequently prioritize the needs of their children and families above their own. While this sounds noble, neglecting self care can ultimately lead to burnout and resentment. Without taking time to recharge and prioritize their own well-being, moms can become physically and emotionally exhausted. I know it’s cliche, but a SAHM cannot pour from an empty cup, (well they can, but it shouldn’t be something that is glorified) stay at home moms need to feel safe enough to take care of themselves just as much as their families.

Signs You’re A Burnt Out Stay At Home Mom

Now you know what could be causing mom burn out, let’s take a step back and look at a few signs of it.

Chronic Fatigue:

Exhaustion that doesn’t seem to improve with rest is a common sign of burnout. Constantly feeling tired, even after a full night’s sleep, can indicate that the demands of motherhood are taking a toll on your physical and mental health.

Increased Irritability

When burnt out, even the smallest inconveniences can feel like major setbacks. Moms experiencing burnout may find themselves snapping at loved ones or feeling irritable and frustrated over minor issues. You might yell at your kids or “blow up” for no reason, then feel insanely bad about it a few moments later.

Loss of Interest or Enjoyment:

Burnout can rob moms of the joy they once found in motherhood and other activities they used to enjoy. Feeling disconnected or apathetic towards hobbies, socializing, or spending time with family can be a red flag for burnout.

*If you are feeling any of these things to the point of them interfering with your everyday life, please reach out to your doctor or a trusted medical professional, is it could be signs of postpartum anxiety (PPA) or postpartum depression (PPD.)

Ways to Overcome Mom Burnout

Alright, mom burn out might sound a little scary, or maybe you’re thinking to yourself at this point “this is so me right now!” And I have good news for you, mama. It doesn’t have to be this way. There are ways you can overcome burnout and feel better.

Prioritize Self Care:

Make self care a non-negotiable part of your routine. Schedule regular time for activities that recharge you, whether it’s taking a bubble bath, going for a walk alone, or indulging in a hobby you love. Remember, taking care of yourself is essential for taking care of others. And if you’re feeling guilty about taking time for yourself, I always like to say this: “Taking care of yourself IS taking care of your family.” Your children need and deserve a healthy, happy stay at home mom! So, take care of yourself and be that mama!

Reach Out for Support:

Don’t be afraid to ask for help when you need it. First and foremost, talk to your husband/partner. You might think you shouldn’t have to ask him for help, but do it anyway! You will feel better and he DOES want to help you. They cannot read our minds and might not know or understand what you need, so talk! Next, reach out to your friends, family members, or other moms who can offer support and understanding. Joining a local mom’s group or online community can provide a sense of belonging and camaraderie.

Adjust Your Expectations:

Let go of the idea of being the “perfect” mom and embrace imperfection. Set realistic expectations for yourself AND your kids, and acknowledge that it’s okay to ask for help or take shortcuts sometimes. Focus on what truly matters—creating happy memories with your children—rather than striving for perfection. You cannot be a perfect mom and that doesn’t teach your kids anything anyway. They need to see you make mistakes and fix those mistakes. Once you lower your expectations, you will feel less stress and overwhelm for sure!

Final Thoughts:

To all the burnt out stay at home moms reading this, know that you’re not alone. Burnout is a common experience, but it doesn’t have to define your motherhood journey. By recognizing the causes and signs of burnout and implementing strategies to prioritize self care, seek support, and adjust expectations, you can overcome burnout and rediscover the joy and fulfillment in being a mom. Plus, you deserve that much. Motherhood isn’t meant to be a depleting and overwhelming journey. You should feel happy and excited more often than not!

If you’re a burnt out stay at home mom here’s what you can do to help yourself:

Find a solid support system
Prioritize self care
Adjust your expectations
Get into a good schedule
Check out my motherhood burnout guide below for even more tips, just click the image to learn more!

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