Becoming A Better Mom: Small Steps That Pack A Big Punch

Alessandra | Posted on April 3, 2025 |

Hey Mama, you’re already a great mom! But as humans, we’re all trying to become a better version of ourselves right and it’s no different for moms. In this blog let’s talk about becoming a better mom with a super positive twist you’ll want to keep reading!

Before we get into how to become a better mom, let’s get one thing straight ok? You’re already a great mom. Seriously. You’re here, reading this, thinking about ways to improve and that alone tells me you care deeply about your kids, and that’s half the battle. But I get it. Mom life can feel really overwhelming quite often. One minute, you’re rocking it, packing healthy lunches and reading bedtime stories, finding your calm and the next, you’re hiding in the pantry eating the last cookie while your toddler throws a tantrum over absolutely nothing. And you wanna scream at the top of your lungs.

You are not alone in those raw feelings. And you’re not alone feeling like you want to do better. In this blog, let’s talk about how to become a better mom without setting unrealistic expectations. No, you don’t need to hand-make Pinterest-worthy crafts or cook gourmet organic meals every night! It’s the little things you do daily that make the biggest differences. Let’s dive in!

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Becoming A Better Mom

Since you’re a mom looking for some self-improvement tips, I’m sharing 7 things you can do each day to become a better mom. These small changes can pack a huge punch, making you and your kids feel better! And what’s better than that? Make sure to let me know what your favorite tip is in the comment section below.

1. Laugh More (Even When It’s Hard)

Sometimes fun and laughter don’t come naturally, especially when you’re kids are driving you bonkers. But kids are pretty hilarious, especially when they’re not trying to be. When your toddler puts their shoes on the wrong feet for the fifth time or your preschooler insists they’re “not tired” right before falling asleep mid-sentence, take a second to appreciate the humor in it. Try to laugh it off instead of feeling irritated about it because laughter creates connection. And if you can laugh instead of stress (at least some of the time), you’re already winning.

2. Say “Yes” More Often

It’s easy to get caught up in saying “no” about everything. No, we can’t have cookies for breakfast. No, we can’t stay at the park until bedtime. And no, we definitely can’t paint the dog. Sometimes it feels like we’re endlessly saying no. But have you ever tried to say “yes” a little more often? What if you said “yes” to more things that aren’t truly a big deal? Yes, we can eat pancakes for dinner. Yes, let’s build a fort in the living room. And yes, we can have a dance party before bed. You can even wear that mismatched outfit to school because why not? You might see that saying yes to the fun stuff doesn’t mean chaos, it means making memories. And it might ultimately make your life easier!

3. Ditch the Mom Guilt

I think mom guilt is a choice but I also get there will always be something you feel guilty about. Whether it’s too much screen time, not enough one-on-one time, or forgetting to send in that permission slip (again) motherhood is filled with things that bring on guilt. But the truth is, no mom is perfect. We all forget, or yell, or need a break sometimes. You love your kids and you’re trying your best. That’s what truly matters, so instead of dwelling on what you should be doing, focus on what you are doing. Chances are, it’s more than enough!

4. Take Care of You (No, Really)

I know that self care can feel impossible some days, but taking care of yourself isn’t selfish. You can’t pour from an empty cup, mama! Plus taking care of yourself doesn’t need to be difficult so forget all the things you think you know about self care! Self care is not only massages and nail salons! It’s all the things you can do for yourself to feel better. Drink your coffee while it’s still hot, take five minutes to sit in silence and read a book. Eat a real meal, not your kids leftovers. Let yourself rest when you need to. These are all acts of self care that really are simple. And a happy, well-rested mom is always a better mom.

5. Let the Little Things Go

Sometimes you need to just let things go instead of getting worked up about them. If your toddler spilled some milk, it’s no big deal. Or your house is a bit messy it’s just proof that fun was had! Maybe you’re dealing with a meltdown in the grocery store, while it can be embarrassing, it happens to the best of us. The less you stress over the small stuff, the more energy you’ll have for what really matters, like loving on your kids, cooking meals together, or going on a nature walk!

6. Give More Hugs

I don’t know about you, but as my kids got older and didn’t need to be held as often, it felt as if hugs were forgotten too. And that’s so sad because hugs are like magic for kids! They fix bad moods, help them feel safe, and remind them they’re loved even after a really rough day. Another bonus is hugs help you too. Experts say a 20-second hug releases oxytocin, the “feel-good” hormone, which can help you relax and feel happier. So, hug away and even though sometimes they might need to be a bit more intentional, it’s ok.

7. Embrace the Messy Moments

Motherhood is beautifully chaotic. The sticky hands, the crying and whining, the mismatched outfits, the nonstop questions, it’s all part of the journey. Instead of fighting the chaos, try leaning into it, all the messy moments. You don’t have to enjoy them all, but when you stop fighting it all and just embrace it, life might feel a bit less overwhelming. One day, the house will be quiet, the toys will be gone, and you’ll miss these wild, messy moments.

You’re Doing Better Than You Think, Mama!

Becoming a better mom isn’t about being perfect so let’s get that straight! It’s about showing up, loving your kids, and giving yourself grace along the way. Some days will be tough. Some days, you’ll lose your patience. But guess what, that’s life and your kids won’t remember every little mistake. They’ll remember the laughter, the hugs, and the moments you made them feel safe and loved.

So, take a deep breath. You’re already an amazing mom and this is just about embracing the little things that make you even better. Don’t forget that! Now go give your kiddo a hug and maybe sneak a cookie in the pantry for yourself—you deserve it!

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