Things I’m No Longer Doing As A Mom This Year

Alessandra | Posted on December 29, 2025 |

In this blog I’m sharing 8 things I’m no longer doing as mom to start off the new year! I believe these things will make life simpler and help me enjoy what really matters. Keep reading to find out more!

Every new year comes with a lot of noise for moms. Do more. Be better. Wake up earlier. Try harder. Fix yourself. Lose the baby weight. It’s honestly endless and honestly? I’m done with that energy! This year isn’t about becoming a new mom or trying hard to be a “better” mom. It’s about becoming a more grounded one. One who protects her peace, stops carrying what was never hers to hold, and lets go of habits that quietly fuel burnout. Keep reading to find out the things I’m no longer doing as a mom this year to make it a good freakin’ year!

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Things I’m No Longer Doing As A Mom

Let’s change our mom mindset this year and stop thinking we need to do better. I know you’re already a great mom! If you’re ready to feel less overwhelmed, more grounded, and ready to take on each day with energy, this is the blog for you! Let’s start this year off right. Here are the things I’m no longer doing as a mom in 2026 and I hope you’ll think about stopping these too. Maybe you’ll feel a little lighter reading them and feel ready to take on the new year! Let me know what you think in the comments section below.

1. I’m No Longer Trying to Do Everything Before My Kids Wake Up

All the experts say you should wake up before your kids if you want to have a good day. And I used to believe that a “good” mom started her day before everyone else. You know, fully dressed, productive, calm, and somehow ahead of life. But what that actually gave me was pure exhaustion. It doesn’t work for everyone. This year, I’m letting mornings be what they are. Some days are calm. Some days are chaotic. And neither determines my worth or how the rest of the day will go! You don’t need a 5am routine to be a good mom. Promise.

2. I’m No Longer Feeling Guilty for Needing Breaks

Breaks and time alone for you are good. Guilt is not! I used to push through my exhaustion like it was a badge of honor. Which only lead to overwhelm and mommy burnout. Now I know that burnout doesn’t make you a better mom. Like at all. It actually makes you feel the opposite of a good mom, it makes everything heavier. This year, breaks are non‑negotiable. Short ones, longs ones. Imperfect ones. Even mental breaks where I sit and do absolutely nothing! Rest isn’t something I earn after doing enough. It’s something I need to function and to show up as the mom I want to be!

3. I’m No Longer Comparing My Motherhood to What I See Online

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, the old cliche that goes “comparison is the thief of joy” is TRUE! Stop comparing yourself to other moms on the internet. Other moms’ highlight reels used to make me question many things. Why don’t my days look like that? Why does she seem calmer than me? And why is her home perfectly clean? Why am I still struggling? Guess what though…a highlight reel is just that, a highlight. Of course a very short glimpse into someones day looks perfect! It’s curated to look that way. So this year, I’m reminding myself that social media is curated and motherhood is not. Again, comparison steals joy, confidence, and presence. I’m choosing real life over unrealistic standards and I really think you should too!

4. I’m No Longer Saying Yes When I Mean No

Let me keep this short and sweet. It’s ok to say no. Period. Over‑committing used to feel like being helpful but now I see it for what it is: self‑abandonment. Ok that might be a little bit overdramatic, but in all seriousness, this year I’m honoring my capacity. I’m allowed to say no to plans, expectations, conversations, and commitments that drain me or that I just don’t feel like doing. Without explanation! Protecting my energy helps me show up better for my kids, so practice saying no sometimes!

5. I’m No Longer Trying to Keep My House “Presentable” at All Times

My home is lived in. Very lived in. And while I do my best to keep it neat (it does get easier as your kids get older!) I don’t feel the need to keep it Pinterest-Looking-Worthy. There are toys and pillows on the floor, because I’m sick of picking them up over and over. There might be dishes in the sink. And laundry sits folder in baskets longer than I’d like. And that’s okay. This year, I’m choosing a functional home over a perfect one. A house that supports my family, not one that constantly demands my attention.

6. I’m No Longer Believing That Overwhelm Is Just “Part of Motherhood”

Yes, motherhood is hard and social media might trick you into thinking that hard means you should be overwhelmed all the time. But let me let you in on a little secret: constant overwhelm isn’t a requirement! It’s also unnecessary and not cool. You should not feel overwhelmed constantly, that’s a huge red flag that something needs to change! This year, I’m actively simplifying. Everything. Creating routines that work for my life. Letting go of systems that don’t. Feeling overwhelmed isn’t a personal failure, it’s a sign something needs support so take a look at your life and figure out where you need support so you can start feeling less overwhelmed. My Motherhood Burnout Guide can help!

7. I’m No Longer Waiting Until I’m Completely Burnt Out to Ask for Help

I used to wait until I was at my breaking point to even attempt to ask for help. I thought it made me a bad mom to ask for help. But really, the tears, resentment, and snapping over small things did that. Now, I’m learning to ask sooner for help, support, space, or understanding. Strong moms don’t do everything alone. And they know that while they can care for their children the best, they don’t have to be the only one caring for their children. If you struggle with asking for help, start small and lessen your load!

8. I’m No Longer Tying My Worth to My Productivity

How much I get done does not determine how good of a mom I am. Read that one more time! Again, social media tricks up in to thinking that how clean and beautiful our homes are make us more worthy. But it’s just not true! Some days are productive. Some days are not. Heck, some days are all about survival! All of them count and you are worthy no matter what your house looks like, what you look like, or what your kids might look like.

A Reminder as You Start This Year

These are just a few things I’m no longer doing as a mom this year. Sometimes becoming a better version of yourself doesn’t mean doing more. It means doing a little bit less. You don’t need to overhaul your life to feel better. Sometimes the biggest relief comes from letting go. If this new year finds you tired, overwhelmed, or already behind that doesn’t mean you’re broken, it simply means you’re human! And you’re allowed to do motherhood differently this year.

If you’re craving more simplicity, structure, and breathing room in your days, you’re not alone. This is the year we stop burning ourselves out just to prove we’re doing enough. Check out The Motherhood Burnout Guide below for more support to help you feel less overwhelmed this year and start thriving in motherhood instead!

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