What No One Tells You About Raising Multiple Children
Raising multiple children can be difficult at times, but it’s also so amazing. Here’s what people aren’t telling you about it!
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From the day your family and friends find out your pregnant they tell you how wonderful it is to have a baby and how exciting a time this is for you and the list goes on. They help you prepared for your first baby and give you all the advice they can remember themsevles.
Then as your baby gets a little older everyone insists it’s time for another. They think it’s time to give your first child a sibling. But no one ever tells you what it’s actually like raising multiple children, am I right? In this blog I’m sharing my account of what it’s like raising multiple children.
What They Do Tell You
People will ease your fear of “will I ever love another child as much as my first?” (You will, I promise.) They’ll let you know that having another is tough. Mornings are slower to get ready and getting out of the house is even harder than it was with one baby. But no one ever mentions what it’s like raising your children and watching them grow as siblings.
What It’s Like Raising Multiple Children
No one ever warns you about the immense love your children will have for each other from the very beginning. No one tells you how they fiercely protect each other so early in their relationship. And no one tells you how quickly that bond is formed and how amazing it is to watch. Honestly, amazing doesn’t even begin to describe what it’s like watching my son and daughter grow as siblings.
I always knew I wanted kids close in age. But I honestly didn’t expect them to be so close until they were much older. But from the first day we brought our daughter home, she would snuggle on the couch with her big brother. She would look at him as if he was the greatest person on the planet. And she wanted to keep up and play with him right away.
At almost 8 and 6 years old, Roman and Mallory are best friends. They are protectors, they count on each other. Don’t get me wrong they fight like wild animals sometimes, but in the end they figure it out. And watching them figure it out is so great! The funniest part is, they could not be more different from each other!
Roman is full of energy and loves running around, while Mallory is completely content lounging on the couch (or the stroller.) He opts for fruit and yogurt when snacking, she goes for cereal bars and cookies. He’s an early riser, she looooves sleeping. He is affectionate, but she will cuddle all day. He wants everything done for him, she is intensely independent. He’s quiet and rational, she will scream until she gets what she wants. The list goes on, but the thing is those differences don’t even matter, they love each other despite those differences.
*Update to add, we added another child to our family!
Adding a Third Child to Our Family
In August of 2020 my family added another baby to our family! While I was pregnant I had thoughts of this baby fitting in. Would she be as loved as her siblings? Would her big brother and sister love her as much as they love each other? And would she fit into our family that had been happily doing our thing for 3 years now. It seemed too late to add another child to our family and I was truly nervous.
But when she was born, all those feelings went out the window! She fit in like the missing puzzle piece she was. It was like we didn’t skip a beat. She was born and she fit perfectly, she was loved, and her siblings loved her immensely from the moment they met her! It was so special.
Raising Multiple Children is the Greatest Gift
Raising multiple children is so many things…it’s fun, it’s hard, it drives you crazy, and melts your heart. But overall, it’s the best thing ever. And maybe that’s why no one ever tells you what it’s like. Maybe new parents need to find out for themselves and see it first hand. Maybe it’s the best thing ever because no one does ever tell you what it’s like.
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So sweet❤️ Makes me want more!
Thanks! It really is the best Britt 🙂